Sad Truth About Some Parents/ Families :(

May Allah help us change for the better and His sake. May Allah make us strong in our faith in Him and Islam during times of criticism and hate. May Allah help the older generation practice and teach Islam to the younger generation based on Islam, not culture and personal preference. Ameen.



This video reminded me of something I read a few days ago that seriously surprised me and hurts to even mention, but inshAllah it is something to learn from. Please read below.

"One of the scholars from Riyadh narrated that they visited a hospital and found a man with his daughter, who was very ill. The daughter was forty years old and had never married, for every man who had come for her, her father rejected.

The scholar said that the woman’s father was from the greediest of people. The father was a person of the dunya, but his dunya did not benefit him. He had many offices: real-estate, cars and clinics; however, it was known amongst the people that if his daughter were to be married, a suitor cannot marry her except with hundreds of thousands [in wealth]. Thus, all of the young men who came to propose were rejected because they were youth lacking wealth. And due to the circumstances of the people, the men wishing to marry her could not afford to pay the high mahr [stipulated by the father, not the daughter herself]. So every righteous man who came, he was asked about his employment and his cars and his salary and if the suitor informed the father that he did not have the precise qualifications he stipulated, then he was turned away. This continued until the daughter reached forty years of age. Then she suffered an acute illness and was admitted to the hospital. Then, due to the severity of her illness, death became imminent. And, certainly, death is the time to meet the One who judges between parties, and there is no Judge except Him, the One who implements justice between the oppressed and the oppressor. 

When it was clear to the daughter that her death was but moments away, she said to her father, who sat at her bedside:

 

“O Father, come close!” So he came close to her.

She said to him, “Say Ameen.” So he said, “Ameen.”

She said again, “Say Ameen!” So he said, “Ameen.”

Then she said a third time, “[O Father!] Say Ameen.” And he said, “Ameen.” Then she said to him these final words before passing away: “May Allah prohibit for you Paradise as you have prohibited for me the delicacy of marriage.”

Source: http://www.saudilife.net/life-and-society/92-life-and-society/15053-marrying-at-the-right-time

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet sent Mu'adh to Yemen and said, "Be afraid, from the curse of the oppressed as there is no screen between his invocation and Allah." (Sahih Bukhari, Book 43 Hadith 628).

Also see http://pictureperfectsf.tumblr.com/post/78912871485/sometimes-unfortunately-our-families-are-the-ones